“Prior to arrival, participants — myself included — were told only that they’d be engaging in workshops with therapists, coaches, movement and yoga instructors and a dominatrix. However, there were two ground rules that Chan made clear early on: We weren’t allowed to bash our exes and we weren’t allowed to give unsolicited advice.” People are paying $4,000 for this NorCal breakup boot camp. (Ironically, $4,000 is about what it costs to get a decent seat at a Taylor Swift concert which is a breakup boot camp in song.)