“If this were just confined to personal lives it would be one thing. But what happens at these sex parties—and in open relationships—unfortunately, doesn’t stay there. The freewheeling sex lives pursued by men in tech—from the elite down to the rank and file—have consequences for how business gets done in Silicon Valley.” “Oh my god, this is so f—ed up’: Inside Silicon Valley’s Secretive, Orgiastic Dark Side. (When I first started doing business in Silicon Valley, I was excited when startups would give me a free fleece.) Be sure to take note of the unwillingness of most participants to speak on the record. It turns out Silicon Valley execs still care about the importance of some personal privacy. Their own.